Using the Power of Thank You
|By Kate Zabriskie|
We all know the old saying that you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. “Thank you” can be a powerful phrase that can help you attract and retain the type of customer and employee you want. And understanding when to say it can lead to positive results.
Most of us like to be thanked, especially when the sentiment is sincere.
For that reason, “thank you” is one of the most powerful phrases in the English language.
In addition to using it to recognize past acts, you can also say thank you to influence people and steer them toward a desired behavior.
A supervisor at a landscape company might say to his employees, “I really appreciate how when you use the blowers, you always make sure all the leaves are cleared off lawns and walkways. You leave them in a nice pile for bagging up — and not all over the adjacent neighbors’ driveway. Your commitment to providing excellent service is really evident.”
Some people will argue that thanking people for doing what they are “supposed to do” is a waste of time. Chances are, however, those same people find themselves frustrated by customers, clients, and coworkers who don’t behave the way they should.
For nonbelievers, the thank-you-in-advance method of influence is certainly worth a shot.
Why thank you in advance works Thanking people in advance works for a few reasons.
The first has to do with a sense of obligation many people feel to reciprocate after they’ve received something.
The second explanation for the technique’s effectiveness has to do with people wanting to conform to a positive image of themselves. In other words, “I’m going to act like a good employee because I am a good employee.”
A third explanation for the thank-you method’s power has to do with instruction. Often, we assume people intuitively know what they are supposed to do. Guess what? Many don’t. They’ve forgotten, they’re preoccupied, or they’re simply not thinking. Offered in the right way, many people will follow a suggested course of action because it’s the path of least resistance.
The structure of an advanced thank you
To plan an advanced thank you, Use the following framework:
I want to thank you in advance for being such a terrific, hard-working group all season long. Every one of you gives 110 percent, every single day, even at 3:00 p.m. on Fridays. I also want to thank all of you for clocking in right on time or a bit early all this week. I like that I can always count on you guys being in the trucks, ready to go by 7:15 every morning. You guys are the best.
Tips and cautions
Thanking people in advance is part science and part art. The framework offered provides a method for constructing the basics of a message. The specific words you choose, the tone in which you deliver them, and your timing are the components in the process that are more subjective. The following tips and cautions should help you get the most from the method.
Perfecting the science and art of the advanced thank you takes time. The more you practice, the easier it is, and the more likely it will become a strategy your brain launches on autopilot.
I know you’ll eventually be successful in getting this to work, and I want to thank you in advance for giving the method a try. Who are you going to influence first?
Kate Zabriskie is the president of Business Training Works Inc., a Maryland-based talent development firm. She and her team help businesses establish customer service strategies and train their people to live up to what’s promised. For more information, visit www.businesstrainingworks.com.